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the Right Message”
S.T.R.M. 8 Personal Agreements (Overview/Summary)
1) Make It Happen (Make
"A" Choices)
Deliberately
creating what you really want (in every moment of your life and
in every area of your life) vs. killing time with
fillers. Overcoming the B-CHOICE SYNDROME by making
"A-Choices."
2) Choose the Path of Objectivity
Choosing the 4 dimensions that create objectivity. In this
sense, being willing to see the difference between your need for
someone and your genuine preference for him (or her).
3) Serious Offers Only.
Being conscious of the level of someone’s involvement
compared to the
level of his commitment. Understanding and creating boundaries, or in
other words, becoming the true steward of your own feelings. Being
willing to extend your love, while maintaining your boundaries. Most
importantly, being unwilling to buy into someone else's confusion.
4) Give
Love vs. trying to get it.
Overcoming Begging, Pawing, Whining (including "Relationship
Talks") by giving love, rather than trying to get it. Learning to
replace your instinct to control, with your highest instinct (to love).
Keeping your spirit in your own body.
5) Heal the real Wounds.
Healing the real wounds vs. imaginary ones. Overcoming the
"Duct Taping Syndrome" by addressing the 4 true sources of
emotional and spiritual pain.
6) Show up as Your best and real self.
Overcoming your "Mahana Rebellion" through the “Best-Self”
agreement.
Deciding to show up at 100% rather than testing you to see if you'll
"love me as I am" (at 50%).
7) Assist others in seeing who they really
are.
Inspiring others to fully show up, and in so doing, experiencing the very
best in yourself.
8) Choose the Path of Greatest Opportunity
The overall Chapter 8 agreement is to embrace the opportunity that life,
and sometimes, that Heavenly Father has given you to
embrace the opportunity you now have to learn to love, vs. running from this opportunity.
In this sense it is an invitation to grow where you are now planted, to paint
in the studio you are now in, to make a wonderful trip in the car you are now
driving.
The 3 paths we find ourselves resisting are: 1) Getting married, 2) Enjoying our single
life (when it’s the time in your life to be single) and 3) Enjoying our
marriage.
Path 1: Getting Married, or “Getting Over Yourself” even
when we are inclined to pursue the endless
search. In this path, we resolve the "Canvas" or "No-Choice"
syndrome through the "Painting Agreement."
Path 2: Enjoying Single life (at the appropriate time in our lives) There
is a great peace that comes in learning the joy of being single.
Though most of us do not opt for the
single life much past our 20s, for one reason or another, that’s the life we find ourselves in. In
our youth, and shortly following a divorce, our spirits and emotions can
receive much healing by asking Heavenly Father to help us find joy and peace
in our single life vs. running away from it into a premature marriage.
Path 3: Enjoying Marriage Staying on the Higher Path of Marriage
(even when you feel like running) can bring a person closer to God that
almost anything in the world. This is
where the spiritual rubber hits the road. This is where we sometimes
can relate in a very small way, to the Savior’s expression if it
be possible let this cup pass from me nevertheless, not my will be done,
but Thine.
The premise of the chapter is that all 3 paths are operative within a
person at any given time, and that healing one path, automatically begins to
heal the other two.
[Note:
The second day of the workshop, "Opening Your Heart to
Possibilities" picks where Chapter 8, Path 1, leaves off and dove tails
the idea of healing the real wounds (chapter 5) into healing the three
paths of resistance.]
9) Open Your Heart to Possibilities
Come to the retreat!
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